Busyness

Ever feel like you’re too busy? Yeah. I know the feeling. I feel like I’m so busy that I don’t have the ability to accomplish what I need to each day…and still get sleep (highly critical, if you know me). Sometimes, it’s not so much that I have a lot to do and don’t have the time to do it in but that it is exceptionally overwhelming to think about everything I have to do. Even when things are several weeks away, the thought of the mounting tasks to be accomplished (that I know of at the current time) is quite daunting. Daunting enough that I have a difficult time sitting down and starting with one thing, checking that off the list and moving to the next.

The way to combat this, for me anyway, is to make lists. I write everything down (assuming, of course, that by the time I get my calendar out I remember what it was that I wanted to write in it). From birthdays to anniversaries to assignment due dates to work schedules, it’s in my calendar. To be fair, I am pretty good at remembering birthdays and anniversaries (especially compared to assignment due dates) because they occur every year at the same time. But, the problem is that the busyness that sometimes surrounds me fills up my brain and these important events can sneak up on me (how rude!).

So what’s a girl to do how has lost her mind, can’t remember things and has so much to do that she doesn’t even know where to start? Pile on more stuff, of course!

Right now, I am in the middle of my final semester of my undergraduate degree (I can almost hear the “Hallelujah Chorus”…). I have 4 days left of class (finishing next Wednesday) and only 2 days of exams (for a grand total of 3 to take). Two weeks from Saturday, I will walk across my university’s stage, get my “diploma” (they will mail it to me sometime in the future), turn my tassel and call myself a graduate. Next up comes moving (again). Then, I start back to work full-time. And then, I’m getting married (and if you’ve been married, you know how much there is to do…oh my!).

Well, I searched “busyness” in my handy dandy search engine and found an interesting article: “Five Cures for Busyness“. As I opened it and read the contents, I realized how true it was…and how much exactly that I have broken each of these rules.

1) Quit some commitments: Super-busy because you have too many different things going on? Impossible! Seriously though, scaling back your commitments and what you can actually put on your schedule will help.

2) Make a plan: Want to conquer the world? You need a plan of attack!

3) Get out of your inbox: This resonates with me especially. The author’s claim is that people often go and check their email when they don’t know what else to do. Yeah. Totally me. (For my fiancé, he goes through his “never ending bookmark cycle”. I also do things like blog.)

4) Ask for help: Another one I’m terrible at (though, admittedly, I’m getting better about it). Somehow, I’m really good at convincing myself that I have to do it all. I got myself into it and I need to finish what I started. I feel like I cannot step back from the responsibilities that I have (and that will expand once married). Asking for help to get these things accomplished so that things get done and you maintain your sanity is key!

5) Learn to say “no”: Another thing I’m terrible with. I don’t want to let people down when they ask for help simply because I (again) convince myself that they will be crushed if I don’t help them. Of course, this is generally not the case (there are definitely exceptions to this rule). But you have to learn to tell people know. If you don’t, you’ll have more commitments that you can handle and have to start at the top of this list.

Maybe I can put some of these to use over the next few weeks as things begin to pile up for me to do. So, for now, I’ll stop blogging and get to work on some of the busyness before me!